Industrialism has fragmented the household, first taking men out of the home, then taking women and children out of the home.
Preindustrial life is not one we should try to go back to, but retrieving a preindustrial household structure is the best of all worlds. A structure where the household is the economic base and where whole families are involved in the life of the home and productive domesticity, and where both parents are involved in child rearing. This is more possible for people to achieve now that it has been in at least a century.
As an aside, I get what you are saying circumstantially, but caution you against the postindustrial, feminist, and fiat thinking that women "give up all of their humanity" to have children. That is a false and ahistoric perspective, as well as contrary to a woman's glory.
On a practical level women can still be productive and active members of society while being mothers.
To understate it, motherhood *is* an active and productive role for society
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