I distictly did not have that problem but I may have simply been fortunate there. 

I also had the patience to curate away the garbage that I'm so used to seeing in "regular social media."

Either way, I see the problem that needs to be solved for sure.  

 A lot depends upon the client and relays that you start off with. 

 That makes sense. Amethyst and the defaults back from when I signed on. Don't really know what they were.  

 Amethyst has group-mutes, now, and they've changed up the relays.

I started out surfing global on lol, with no group mutes.
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