I agree 100%—it’s nearly impossible to capture the depth of a lifetime in just one dimension. Experiences are layered with so many emotions, memories, lessons, and nuances that can’t be simplified easily. Every moment we live adds complexity to who we are, and trying to reduce all of that to a single dimension misses so much of the beauty and depth in a person’s story. Yet, oftentimes, humans fall into this trap of oversimplifying others, seeing only what aligns with their own assumptions or biases. I suppose it is easier to categorize than to take the time to fully understand each person.
Its not a trap, its a method born out of necessity, an economic reality if you will. So yes, but it is not just that it is simpler, but the only thing that can be repeated over and over again.
There are only a few people you can afford to get to know in a way you describe; although having those type of people in your life is not a given i gues. Just had cheese fondue with three of them, the chocolate fondue is next :)
For sure —building those deep connections with everyone isn’t practical. It makes sense that we rely on simpler ways to understand most people we meet, and I agree that only a few people can really fit into that inner circle where you know them on that deeper level.
For me, it’s not so much about wanting to know everyone deeply; it’s more about reminding myself not to judge people too quickly. I want to stay open to the fact that there’s more to everyone than what I first see, even if I don’t get to know all the layers. Also, cheese and chocolate fondue with those few close people sounds wonderful especially in this sweater weather!
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