I went on two dates the past two weeks.
About an hour into the first one the gal said “I eat Oreos and nerds clusters every single night.” Which I promptly replied with “oh, you’re addicted to hyper processed foods. That’s a real shame.” Lmao
To that point the date was actually going well, this woman was quite attractive, but I completely lost interest when she talked about her dysfunctional dietary habits.
Second date, lady was based, interesting, attractive and has a flexible well-paying career as a trauma RN. Date was going great, we had good chemistry, she was receptive to libertarian ideas I gently tested the waters with and she even expanded on them.
Later in the date she asked flat out if I wanted kids, which I replied I did. She said under no circumstances will she have children and that it was a deal breaker.
We had an interesting conversation about anti-natalism but she got defensive when I made points about it being a selfish ideology that’s is easy to sell to people who are self-centered and that it doesn’t make any biological sense. But things stayed amicable, we moved past it and spent another couple hours laughing and enjoying each other’s company.
She texted me today saying what a good time she had, that she doesn’t usually have such interesting conversations and wants to see me again.
Overall I continually feel thwarted by clown-world programming most especially in dating.
Sounds like the second gal might have been misled, but may be open minded?
She seemed pretty set about it. Said she was raised in the south where the culture was that was her only purpose (get married, have kids) and she had some kind of epiphany later in life where she realized that’s not what she wants.
I could tell that she hadn’t ever been exposed to the idea that anti-natalism was an agenda that had co-opted millions of selfish people though. So maybe I planted a seed (no pun intended) but I doubt it.
I will say I will keep in contact with her because she is somebody I would be friends with.
Fair enough. Good thing she's a cool enough person to hangout with though. Worse comes to worse, you made a new friend.
For sure. I moved 3 hours away from where I grew up this month and don’t have any friends in the new area. So it’s a welcome development.
good 4 U! i vetted my prospectives to save friction/ gramps told me to look @ their mothers 4 future ref. gr8 days BTC_P2P
I can only imagine dating in today’s world. Best of luck man.
It’s brutal if you have standards.
Bro keep posting that’s very insightful stuff
Anti-natalism is toxic misanthropic garbage.
Dating is a mad world which I largely steer clear of these days. Date number 2 does sound really promising though, even given your seemingly differing views on child rearing, you really must have made an impression on her, good luck man, whatever happens🙏🏻.
Second seems interesting. Something I've realised, people don't know what they really want. I wouldn't let the anti-child ideology put u off. Good luck man. Dating in today's world, it a mine field.🙈 but hang in there. It will all be worth it in the end.💯
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