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 You get self esteem by doing things that are worthy of esteem and then telling no one. 

New PR in the gym? Tell no one. 

Just made a million dollars? Tell no one. 

Have an amazing sex life? Tell no one. 

Promotion at work? Tell no one. 

Lost 50lbs? Tell no one. 

People might notice some of these things or changes you’ve made and that’s ok. 

Don’t be weird about it. If they comment say thank you and keep going. 

The reason you tell no one is so that you can switch your reference point from external to internal. 

Let others see the results. Don’t announce them. 

Anything you have that is enviable others will brag for you. 
 Also, biochemistry dictates that you get a dopamine hit when you tell other people. That dopamine hit is actually detrimental to progress as it places the high on the telling and not the doing. This leads to worse outcomes over time, more "cheating" on your goals and less likely to push to do it as hard. 
 Exactly 
 I need deep shit like this.
Thank you both 🤙🏽 
 I just lost 50 lbs achieving a new PR fucking my wife so good, she gave me a promotion at work and now I make a million dollars. 
 TELL NO ONE 
 This is the funniest comment I have seen in my entire two weeks on Nostr.   Congratulations to you sir, your wife’s boyfriend must be very proud of you 🤣 
 True; however announcing them can hold you accountable and push you further than you would go by “hiding” your personal goals and failures. 
 I think this is useful sometimes, but often is a crutch. 
 Merit to accountability.  However telling others about your goals often gives a quick dopamine release that creates a false sense of accomplishment.  I agree with @HODL do the work and say nothing, this will create true self esteem 
 Love this. Hard to deprogram 
 I agree with this 
 Fantastic note. Your rhetorical gift is, well, enviable. 

One of Naval’s better fortune cookies is this: self esteem is the reputation you have with yourself. 
 That’s a great way to put it 
 🤌🏼🤌🏼🤌🏼 
 wise words!!! 👍👍👍 
 I think that I really needed to hear this.  
 Real shit 
 the benefit of telling other people is it encourages other people to jump on the train with you. i'd probably still be a weak soyboy if it wasn't for people posting about their PRs and sharing their journeys to a healthy life. 
 You get self esteem by doing things that are worthy of esteem and then telling no one. 

New PR in the gym? Tell no one. 

Just made a million dollars? Tell no one. 

Have an amazing sex life? Tell no one. 

Promotion at work? Tell no one. 

Lost 50lbs? Tell no one. 

People might notice some of these things or changes you’ve made and that’s ok. 

Don’t be weird about it. If they comment say thank you and keep going. 

The reason you tell no one is so that you can switch your reference point from external to internal. 

Let others see the results. Don’t announce them. 

Anything you have that is enviable others will brag for you. 
 Lovely advice.. will tell no one. 
 Let your actions speak for themselves. I agree, it is key ignore the bragging internally. 
 The words humility, humble, humbled, humbles and humbly are mentioned in the Bible over 100 times. 
 I agree. But I would not set it as dogma. There are situations where it makes sense to talk about your skills and accomplishments. That's possible to come from your internal point of reference aswell. 
 So true. If you're seeking the approval of others it won't belong to you. They'll notice that most of all. 
 A million Dollars?🤢🤢🤢🤮

Wrong Unit of account 

Geez 
 We're all glad you have an amazing sex life hodl 🤙 
 I have four kids lol you can deduce the rest 😂 
 Dang man I'm proud of you for real 
 Bastard 😂 
 Great advise.

I suppose bitcoin also teaches you to keep your mouth shut and not brag, because eeeeverybody wants to know how much you’ve got, but you end up developing the knee jerk reaction “not enough” response.

I think that eventually also plays a role in quelling the need you might feel to brag about any other aspects or achievements in your life. 
 Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.
Matthew 
 Self actualisation… so true. Love and respect yourself and others will love and respect you. 
 The way of the Jaguar 
 Don’t tell anyone about, except tangentially thru giving out advice ;-) 
 That's a tricky one, often times I totally agree, but sometimes I know people who could really use the motivation of hearing what's possible. 
 So what are you telling us? 
 lol exactly