I get triggered when someone, to protect a friend, makes fun of someone else, or try to diminish the person. I really don't see how it can make the hurt person feel better. it's just an attempt of distraction from what the person feels. that just keeps the feeling hidden and it will come out somehow and when it comes who will be there for the hurt person?

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I know there's something for me to see within myself about it. maybe the way I treat myself is full of cruelty when I make mistakes, when I'm not aware of myself, when I'm lost in vanity. but that's always an invite for compassion. an invite to drop this way of talking to myself and also stop judging what I've been doing that puts me down. an invite to just accept that I have this inner dialogue without thinking I'm stupid or that I waste my time with that. and also accept there I'm trying just to show you something I do everyday - observe myself and be radically compromised with my triggers. and accept that I run away from myself doing that.

when I do this I remember I can just feel what is coming. 

 I see the danger in judging others now & I don't like it when I hear others expressing judgement. It's a bit of an ironic pickle because I find myself judging them for judging others.

When someone expresses judgement, they are indirectly asking you to agree with it.

My approach is to either ignore the judgement or be reframe their judgement as an observation. I don't know if this is the best approach but I know that I can't agree with their judgement.

I don't get triggered by the judgement because I know it's coming from a place of insecurity. Needing to put others down in order to lift others up says a lot about their own beliefs. It's not malicious, just a coping mechanism to dull the pain of taking the actions of others personally.

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 yes. that's perfect. it's just their observation, a simple thought that could have gone away, and not who those people are. when I read what you said I felt understood and I could see clearer. thanks, Brisket! it's nice to have your support here.