Oddbean new post about login | logout What do you think of a 2 of 3 multisig wallet both are paying into? The third key is held by someone both trust and agree on. If the husband runs away the moneys goes to the wife. If it turns out that the kids father is not the husband the money goes to the husband. You could also hand the third key to a "notar" and make a contract to spell things out. I believe that such a set up is an additional incentive for a marriage well lived.
Yes, I've thought about that. Bitcoin really is the best sort of property for this sort of thing. Multisig also prevents her from blowing it all on a shopping spree or giving him access in response to physical threats. It's supposed to be a sort of trust fund, and trusts are often sealed by a lawyer, notary, etc.
You could also add clauses for money being added to the wallet, like on the consummation of the marriage, the birth of a child, wedding anniversary, as a % of any income increase the family has (since she indirectly helped generate that increase), etc. Not the least because German law says that if something is given to a spouses, explicitly as a present, the recipient owns it outright and it doesn't become joint property. (That's why I receive gold coins for Christmas, birthdays, etc., where they are given in front of other people and come in a present box.) You would probably have to tie the amounts according to some deflation rate, tho. The price of housing or electricity, or something.
I'm basically advocating for a "prenuptual contract" culture, I guess, rather than reliance on family law. Happier marriages often naturally settle into this sort of thing, over time, but making it tradition is more effective across the population. Away from lavish weddings, McMansions, and megadiamonds, toward sensible financial planning and addressing common concerns in advance, with the help of advisors and templates. People think this is tawdry, since we're supposed to be romantic and trusting, but I see it as prudent and sensible. And a solid financial foundation gives romance more room to bloom.
Yes! Already living in that world ✅.
The lavishness used to proof of that solid foundation.
used to be that to join families both would have to show proof of worth. hence dowries separate properties etc.
This is often still the case, if the families are well-established and attentive.
Yah ... Just not enough good looking families still have those values in tact. Kek
I know. I had a lavish wedding in a castle with a designer gown, and etc. But we didn't pay for that! 😱 That would have bankrupted us. Only thing the groom paid for were the rings and the honeymoon. Everything else was our parents.
It's not proof of a solid foundation, if you go broke paying for it. The foundation is that your parents are wealthy (or the groom is). You don't spend dowry money on a party. 🤦♀️
Haha, that last line 😅💯
How about no human marriage and corporations get into marriage like their life depends on it? I'm an exception nostr:nevent1qqs92pvycmtruvytuh55n0vc0267ek0q433e29xmvgld8mkmkn78dxqzyrwkvn27gqtyxw5v660sqkhpfqyqgdgh3x6emed0qcnkmejkx0f3jte7nkd
Marriage being a lifetime working contract nostr:nevent1qqsvqezcwt64sh09jd6t0qyy4u9s0g32wdzc6d26kqdl3zknedldy9gzyz4kg5dq8wf2v3l3x4tqzx0nzxdt8aqn5cgameddlnawng7d9203smec54c