used to be that to join families both would have to show proof of worth. hence dowries separate properties etc. 

 This is often still the case, if the families are well-established and attentive. 

 Yah ... Just not enough good looking families still have those values in tact. Kek 

 🤣🤣🤣 

 I know. I had a lavish wedding in a castle with a designer gown, and etc. But we didn't pay for that! 😱 That would have bankrupted us.

Only thing the groom paid for were the rings and the honeymoon. Everything else was our parents. 

 It's not proof of a solid foundation, if you go broke paying for it. The foundation is that your parents are wealthy (or the groom is).

You don't spend dowry money on a party. 🤦‍♀️ 

 Haha, that last line 😅💯