Oddbean new post about login | logout You get engagement by being female. But there are two sides to that. Use the mute.
There are many/most uses cases that don't work effectively, if you stay completely anon. Like finding other women to chat with and meet up with IRL. Not everyone exists solely on the Internet.
There are a lot of apps for that. Hashtags/groups can be used to for things like that. I stay anon for a reason, you know. Because it's a neutral ground. I want to read valuable info, content, not a 2nd Instagram or whatever.
That is your choice. Other people make other choices. You will have to learn to coexist with people who aren't posing as inanimate objects or hit the mute.
I agree with your problem of ineffective spam-filters / muting options atm. New Year's Eve was a great example of the vulnerability to be spammed. I have no problem with co-existing, but when someone exposes himself publicly, in a place without moderation or closed groups with admins and so on, then the person exactly that - exposed. It's a free choice. That's why I don't expose myself in such places