It's time for a little #grownostr as I'm feeling stressed as a parent right now. 🫂
As you all know, I love my kids more than anything. They are my greatest accomplishment in life. Everything I do, I do for them. That said, being a parent is sometimes very stressful. My kids know how to push my buttons better than anyone and I let it annoy me and stress me out probably more than anyone too. I know kids will make mistakes and we must use them as a teaching moments, but damn, it's sometimes really hard to do.
I hear you.
Unconditional love is pure vulnerability.
right there with you, and as they age everything is getting more complex
I couldn't imagine dealing with everything they do today compared to when I was a kid. Having mobile phones in school and digital evidence of all of your mistakes and fuck ups? Yikes. Count me out.
I know exactly what you mean.
They could always be worse. I’m sure yours are amazing young people.
Heck, they orange pill their friends!
Haha, you're right. My son is generally amazing 💜💜💜
just the fact you are aware of this and expressing it means you’re doing alright
My kids are adults now and I'm just beginning to realize that you basically spend the first part of their lives teaching them, the middle part of your their lives arguing with them over who is smarter, and hopefully the last part of your life learning from them. I'm smack dab in the middle of the most humbling part of that process where I'm constantly learning that I was never smarter than my parents.
Oh I know I was not smarter than my dad. He caught me in every dumb thing I did, because he probably did it too and knew what to look out for 😂 😂
Derek, did you drive your car through the field when you came home last night?
No.
I see weeds hanging down from your car and tire tracks through the field by our house.
That's really odd 👀👀👀
Very true.
When we was younger and we had kids some of our friends who had no kids acted and talked like it isn’t that hard.
Laughing at us or just that look on their face.
Then they had kids.. we are laughing now at them, to ourselves.
Those who can raise kids in the right way, wholesome, with strong values and morals. While staying sane. Kids who learn how to think for themselves. Those parents should be applauded!
😂 Yeah, it definitely something you have to experience. I have a couple friends that don't have kids at this point and probably never will. They don't get it either.
feature not a bug mate. They're learning through you. They get their boundaries from you and then know where they are in the wider world.
Pushing the gap between what annoys you and how you respond is the super power. V little, outside of emergencies needs to be responded to immediately, and for that - theres drills and training.
You're a good dad. Most don't even have the self awareness to GAF.
So much great advice and encouragement in this thread. If you're a parent and especially a dad, do yourself a favor and read the thread!
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I'm sure you're doing an amazing job!
Go on a weekend trip with the wife or friends, to recharge👍🏻 let the kids stay with family😅
we did a day trip two weekends ago actually. it was great!
I think this is the way you become a Saint. I put my mother and father thru some ordeals 🤦♂️. Now my kids do the same 🤣. Well I hope everything gets better. I go thru that a lot, get stress from my little ones but they are just learning like you said. Sometimes I think when they are all grown these are going to be the best memories in my life. Our bond, are fights 🤣. Something unique, a blessing. Well I hope you win the day!
🫂 it’s tough in the trenches of parenthood, but you’re doing great just by being there and caring.
It’s so worth the pain. Hold the course. Just like stacking sats, your wealth grows exponentially in children
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