feature not a bug mate. They're learning through you. They get their boundaries from you and then know where they are in the wider world. 

Pushing the gap between what annoys you and how you respond is the super power. V little, outside of emergencies needs to be responded to immediately, and for that - theres drills and training. 

You're a good dad. Most don't even have the self awareness to GAF. 

 Well said. Thank you.