The difficult truth is, the disrespect is coming from the wife in this hypothetical scenario. The sexual preference and gender are much lower on the relevance scale. This hypothetical wife is directly undermining the health and structure of her own family. That is not to say there can’t be other people involved and helping. But those roles go through the father and mother first. And if a wife is undermining the father’s role in setting the boundaries of this, she is undermining her own family.