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Low Information Voter | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +3 
 We all need to pay attention to Rapoport's advice on constructive disagreement:

https://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Rapoport's_Rules

Especially in text media with no emotion-conveying side-channels.

I know I do...!

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reltbracco | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +3 
 Some people just wanna be edgelords though. Mature conversation is not what they’re here for.
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Low Information Voter | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +1 
 This is a problem, too.

Marie's yesterday's insulter is pure edgelord, that can't be fixed except by muting.

The seed oil thread that triggered Noshole was much less so, and drama could have been 100% avoided with better constructive disagreement skills.
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reltbracco | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +2 
 It seemed to me Shishi wanted to be rude. I don’t believe they wanted to be so rude that Noshole would leave Nostr. But I don’t get the impression that having a mature conversation was a priority. 

Not quite edgelord material maybe, and not comparable rudeness to Joel. But still intentionally rude. 

Rapoport’s rules ensure clear communication of IDEAS. But if intents and emotions are what you’re trying to convey over ideas, then being rude is an extremely effective communication tool. They got their point across.
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Low Information Voter | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +3 
 I think a lot of otherwise-good people get "communicating ideas" and "communicating emotional reactions" confused. Especially when feeling "triggered" themselves". Its the Spirit of our Age, truly. I think people took responsibility for their own feelings better even when I was a teenager in the late 90s.

So that's a third problem.



1- Don't be an Edgelord

2- Your feelings are your problem to solve, not your conversation partner's

3- Disagree constructively