I was like, I hope he really likes me and shows up on time to dates and goes to church regularly and smells good.

I mean, it's a short list, but that only leaves a tiny selection, really. 

 I think only 10% of German men attend church weekly, and most of them are probably not looking for a wife, so like 96% of men were immediately out of the running. 😂 

 I guess it was a short list, but loaded and highly subjective. 

 You sound like a good women. Now my criteria is a woman who has this as their criteria. 

 I used to have no expectations at all. That ultimately led to me having an ex-husband 😁 Maybe I should do things differently in future. I shouldn't have any specific ideas about what a man should be like, but instead make it clear to myself what I definitely don't want. What characteristics and behaviors are taboo, what can't I tolerate 

 Yeah, I hate tardiness or ghosting and whatnot. I need to see some enthusiasm. 

 And I can't do drama or mindgames or whatnot. I don't have the social skills to deal with that isht. 

 I have trust issues. So honesty is important to me. I'm the type of person who prefers to be told what's going on, then there's bound to be a solution. I don't believe that everything is always perfect. I hate manipulation. It's tiring and a waste of time. I also hate it when someone is late but I think I would be willing to compromise at that point 😂 

 I get panicky, if someone is late or doesn't respond to attempts to communicate. Can't handle the stress. 

 I go crazy when someone is late, but I'm extreme about that. How do you think I felt when I was stuck in traffic on the way to see you two? I had to calm down a lot. That was one of my toughest tests. But I would try to work on that. Ghosting is another thing. I take that personally. Above all, I don't understand it. Why not say what's going on? 

 I know and we're such worryworts that we were constantly checking for updates. 😂 Nerdy chicks are a tough crowd. *meltdown incoming*

Just the idea of ghosting makes me want to tear my hair out. geez 

 My husband says he has to ping me regularly, like a network server, so that I don't panic.

https://c.tenor.com/911cTneIjkIAAAAC/tenor.gif 

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 What about you V? ;) 

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 That's how I picked a man.

Actually makes it much easier to pick someone and remain satisfied because matching values is so rare and hard to fake or buy.