I learned that when under stress I default into believing that my identity is tied up in whether what I am doing is "good" or "bad" or that I change my behavior to avoid risking vulnerability.  When I take a beat I realize that this is stupid and that what I do or its results does not reflexively modify my identity.  Rather, I can remember who I am and then act for the purpose of leading to serve and impact from a place of security knowing that it won't always work out but that I've improved my chances of leading positively when I am not operating from a place of insecurity.