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 Do ma'am and sir bother you? Had a conversation with a friend about teaching our kids manners and yes/no ma'am/sir was a thing her parents that spent time growing up in I believe it was Illinois (could be wrong) didn't really push whereas my parents did 🤷‍♀️. I always try to kill 'em with kindness, so I'm a full on you're welcome and no problem!! maxi. Maybe it's a personality thing, maybe it's a regional/cultural thing. But you're welcome 😉🫂 
 Yes. 

And no. 

I tend to avoid them because I hated it in the army. Most of the ma'ams and the sirs were neither deserving of my respect nor even worthy of any consideration EXCEPT their supposedly superior rank. 

I don't mind using it for unknown people of obviously greater age than I. 

Or if I'm playing around with someone I know. 

I hadn't thought about it from the angle of teaching children to be polite. That's another layer that I'll need to ponder. Thank you. ❤️  
 Glad I can offer some insight. It's been a a learning curve trying to figure out what to keep and what to trim away that we've been taught all our lives. Just winging it and hoping for the best sometimes 😂.  
 It is a long process, longer for others that don't bother to start it at all, too. 

That's all we can do at times. But you've made it! 💪♥️👍🎉🎊 
 I'm weird, I say ma'am and sir even to others younger then me.  
 But I don't like being called sir. Weird. Right? 
 Sir, this is a nostr 
 I legit LOLed over this comment. 
nostr:nevent1qqsyvr4m7vws8t2nhnyjvq43p8nh7pl7qajtw0jx9s6pgtj82d3ewncpzemhxue69uhk2er9dchxummnw3ezumrpdejz7q3qfjqqy4a93z5zsjwsfxqhc2764kvykfdyttvldkkkdera8dr78vhsxpqqqqqqz7h792v 
 well, the note i responded to with that also made me lol so i'm glad the lols are infecting 
 I hate it, too. Especially since I got out of the army.  
 I used to feel uncomfortable about it when I was younger. 
Its gotten worse as I've gotten older. 
I stopped correcting folks a while ago, even when they're older than I. 
 That is weird outside of the context of something like a service job...