To me it helps to think that my son sometimes acts out because it’s the only thing he knows how to do atm. It helps me understand that it’s not that he is being an asshole, but rather that he is doing his best in the pursuit of his own happiness. My role is to patiently and gradually show him better ways.

This mentality also overflowed in my life towards other people who act out. It’s their best take in trying to live a happy life, so I try to not take it personally as best as I can. 

 Yep - I've read all the books man, and of course they don't act out to deliberately spite you.

That's a difficult sell though when you're on a few hours sleep, you're hungry and your kid has just hit you round the face.
 

 Totally get you!!