Oddbean

I’ve never found this an issue in real life. On this site. I agree. But maybe being mentally abusive to others is normal around here & others are ignoring that fact. Not sorry to be the one to call others in on this. At all.

What is the word? This is my word. 👇 If people don’t understand my love language comes with **all** the emotions ( and beyond ) that’s on them. The world is burning and disheartening. Some lead with acceptance & love for all. I love humanity enough to allow myself to be called in. Facing the fire 🔥 directly. This should make sense to some. ❤️😘😍😊🥰💕💙💜💔💗🖤💛💖💞💚❣️💓😻🧡💘💝🤟🏻😽 https://image.nostr.build/13693eb08668484fb3dd6e813fa113a34d2168e368f9e26f27914af433d68fd7.jpg

I just said it’s worth it to be patient and kind instead of having an “I am smarter and better” attitude when it comes to making others realize something or explaining something etc. :) Feel your feelings girl. I think I it’s important to have friends & family that accept every nuance of it. 🫂

In 2017 I walked away from a business that paid me over 1m a year. I had a 1yr old daughter and my new wife, 12 years my younger still had corporate goals she wanted to reach. Even though her income is good, it was insignificant to my earning potential. However, I’d had enough. After a failed marriage and the constant drive for success I felt I had let my first child down (she was 3 at the time my wife left 2006) all my success came post 2006 and i started the grind in 2008. My first child didn’t have what I grew up with - stable home and two loving parents - I had her weekly and we are close but it has always niggled me that I failed her in this respect. So back to 2017, I resigned, negotiated an exit from the shares, sold below market value to exit immediately. I now have a boy and a girl 7/8 respectively whom I’ve been there daily for and I see my 20 yr old regularly. I like to think that I am a good father rarely have cause to raise my voice and my young kids are well adjusted and very polite and happy. Both excel at school regarding people skills. In 2020 I discovered Bitcoin and with my financial background, it clicked immediately. My new wife is a lawyer who is slowly opening her eyes to the fiat world but she isn’t ready to embrace Bitcoin so i travel this epoch alone. In January 2025 I will have traversed my first cycle and god it’s been painful and stressful but I’m a fighter and I can see what’s going on around me. Slowly but surely my eldest daughter is now starting to get it, as I point her in the right direction of books to read . She is now asking the right questions. However, Our relationship can be stormy because she can be aggressive like her mother. I have learnt to be patient with her and kind because this is not her fault. Kindness and patience will rise above any trait a human can possess because that’s what makes us human. I’m a better father now than I’ve ever been.

I would love to give more, but I’ve spent my amount that they’ll let me this week. I’m really sad. 😭 I’m trying to figure out how to add another wallet. Which is so weird (bad weird not good) because if it’s my #btc, who are they to tell me how much I’m allowed to spend?

Weird … I guess lowering my amount allows Sats … THANKS 🙏 As I’ve been here under various names I’ve sought to zap ⚡️ many with larger amounts as a belated thank you. 🙏 Humbly said. Does this make sense? I’m also keeping a future list to zap ⚡️ later. Still figuring out zap Culture 😂🌷😅

It's not an insignificant achievement to be a kind and patient father👏🏻 I always thought I was an easy going guy who didn't really struggle with emotional outbursts. Turns out all I needed was a couple of kids to blow that mental model apart. Every day is a battle between the emotional and rational sides of my brain, when responding to my kids being dicks.

To me it helps to think that my son sometimes acts out because it’s the only thing he knows how to do atm. It helps me understand that it’s not that he is being an asshole, but rather that he is doing his best in the pursuit of his own happiness. My role is to patiently and gradually show him better ways. This mentality also overflowed in my life towards other people who act out. It’s their best take in trying to live a happy life, so I try to not take it personally as best as I can.

Yep - I've read all the books man, and of course they don't act out to deliberately spite you. That's a difficult sell though when you're on a few hours sleep, you're hungry and your kid has just hit you round the face.

Amen to that brother! Keep up the great work! Parenting isn't easy but it is fulfilling. I also have taken a way lessons in both kindness and patience that have made me a better person (and father).

Being smart is not an option, either you are or you are not. Genes, early stimuly, proper education and nutrition from a young age sets intelligence in stone. Being kind and patient on the other hand can be cultivated.

Indeed, one can increase knowledge and experience but IQ seems to only go down after the age of 22-24. The only thing that helps with brain function is physical exercise. But it only slows down the decay.

#patience is about enduring the wait, but #lowtimepreference is about choosing to wait for something #better. One is about coping with the #present, the other is about #investing in the #future and requires #POW and a new #mindset. Although they seem similar, they are not!