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 Men want to feel powerful, women want to feel safe 
 GM, replying to your note on wss://nostr.oxtr.dev 
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 No, men want to BE powerful, but settle for the feeling. To their denigration.  
 Honestly, I think only men with severe levels of insecurity think this way.  
 All feelings of being are fleeting 
 Be which way? Powerful or feel powerful?  
 Both to varying degrees. It's difficult to explain but a man who has and understands true love and possesses all the needs to care for his loved ones isn't constantly striving for dominance in any way. In other words, he doesn't have the need to feel or be powerful and is always open to compromise. A man who has all the needs to care for his loved but doesn't understand true love might feel like he's missing an essential part of being human; constantly attempting to fill that missing portion of his soul with the power he gains. Maybe I'm subjective but that's just my opinion. 
 No, I get it now, but... 

You are conflating being powerful with being domineering. Those are often shown together, but, do not have to be. 

This is the same concept of being peaceful but exceptionally capable and willing to use swiftly applied violence if a situation arises that requires violence to solve. If a person is not capable of violence, then they cannot be truly said to be peaceful since they are not choosing to be peaceful, they are required to be based on their posture.  
 "You are conflating being powerful with being domineering. Those are often shown together, but, do not have to be."

Lol does this even matter given the context of this conversation?

Have you ever experienced true love?


 
 And hopefully actually be those things. 
 All feelings of being are fleeting 
 It’s true. 
 truly powerful men make safe spaces for Women  
 Not my experience. Absolute power corrupts absolutely. 

I wonder if men feel that safe women are as toxic as I feel powerful men are 🤔💭 
 i agree. now that you mention it, maybe a better word would be "empowered" instead of powerful?

"A woman’s energy, or feminine energy, is similar to a river—fluid, dynamic, and changing. It flows naturally, guided by instincts and emotions. The river is strong and powerful, carving paths and nurturing the landscape it passes through. The masculine role is akin to the banks of the river. The banks do not control the river; they exist to provide the structure and support needed for the river to flow freely and gracefully."

this is what i mean by "safe space."

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 No, we don't. 
 I could write a book about this topic but it would offend MANY. No need for drama😉. 
 Men want to feel loved & powerful by the woman. 
 Sounds toxic.  love should come in the form of compromise and partnership ⚖️ 
 Exactly empowerment & fulfilment is a partnership ⏳🫂👩🏻‍❤️‍👨🏻 nothing toxic about loving each other.