I agree. I remember a few years ago I was at my friend's tea house community gathering place. Their son may have been 3 years old and he's running around an hitting on the other kids. One of the little girls father was tending to them and I exclaimed in realizing this "wow, he's a lil bully, isn't he?". And the father my friends friend said "yeah, he's gonna be all right. He's got a village to support him". I loved that and it has me appreciate village culture, community support and conscious parenting so much.  

 Ya we do non coercive collaborative parenting but I still get triggered at times 

 Try not to take it out on my kids bc I know they are just being kids