there's many elements to this not really possible

a relay block list would be a good one, so you never send to relays you don't trust

the most important events that you don't want leaking are your app data and DMs, this is also about relays and their actual codebase and policies implemented therein

many relays just give those events out to whoever asks for them, it is a critical element of a functioning system IMO that at least relays make a decent effort to not leak your metadata events

the absolute level of invisibility to your enemies cannot be achieved without centralization, which means your enemy has a proxy to attack you with 

 I'm not viewing this in terms of enemies... I just want to have pleasant exchanges with people. I don't think he's an attacker, but if an exchange is unpleasant, I don't want a repeat.  

 yeah, there is a weaksauce attitude towards actually blocking shit in the dev culture of social networks in general

this is a product of the mindset of Reddit and what a fucking army of remote controlled retards they are

i point this out to people who build these clients, to like, you know, not have fucking revealers for muted shitheads... but they ain't listening, and it's really fucking obvious if you don't want to hear it you don't... fucking... want to hear it

makes me so crazy i could scream sometimes how obviously these people have been conditioned to the "if you have nothing to hide" meme 

 Haha remote controlled retards, I love that, I'm stealing it 

 No nip can "solve" it, once your notes are out on the relays, nobody can control what other people can view. It's a trade off to also ensure you can't be censored  

 I like not being censored. I don't want anything that compromises that. But I also think fences make good neighbors.