We can’t change others, we need to understand ourselves first before relating lovingly with others, often both sides don’t know themselves, and that’s what causes conflict.

Most of the time, we are caught up in superficial or mental traps which make us lose contact with our core being, memories and projection is an escape from learning meaningfully about ourselves.

We are shallow, it takes effort to go in deeply, and most aren’t bothered.

In essence, if we are not aware of our core being it’s not possible to really relate with others. 

 Agreed.