I don't know that the lack of "patience" is a "these days" problem. I don't think the average person feels the pain of a problem that nostr solves enough to outweigh the frustration and time suck that making it work requires. Most people aren't tech savvy at all (I work for a fiberoptic telecommunications company, people have trouble with email, cable remotes and keeping devices connected to their wifi), have jobs, families, obligations and existing hobbies that they value greater than a decentralized, uncensorable communication protocol capable of near-complete anonymity using an nsec/npub keypair to sign events by users and publish them to various relays... "this fiberoptic internet was supposed to be so good, but if I go out to my metal outbuilding my phone disconnects from the internet, so fiberoptic sucks"