Oddbean new post about login | logout In what way is Bitcoin "more easily controlled" than Monero? As for Monero being easier, I literally spent a morning this week resyncing the entire Monero blockchain because the db file got corrupted. I've been running Bitcoin nodes since 2012 and have never had to do that, because file corruption only affects individual blocks and crashes only affect the tip of the chain. I've also hosted a Lightning node for two years. It's not that hard.
It's possible you had issues with a Monero node, sure. It's possible. But without a doubt, the end user using a Monero wallet is easier than self-custody Bitcoin lightning, especially if we're talking self-liquidity. And this is why it's more easily controlled, because the end users give up custody/control, to make it easier. There are other reasons as well, such as privacy, censorship, and legal complexity of layer 2 middlemen.