A book I disliked and I assume is written more for men is Shogun by James Clavell. The characters don't feel like real human beings but more like embodiements of certain ideas. And it focuses heavily on tactics (makes sense considering the author is a vet). But then I absolutely love ASOIF and I find George R R Martin focuses more on characters and stories rather than descriptions. Idk if this helps. BTW I'm a man.