I hear you. It starts educating people and opting out, then verifying and holding relay runners to the new standard. If enough people do this, the tech will evolve to meet user expectations, or privacy-conscious users will just stop using Nostr, and it would be a shame to see that happen. 

 IMO it would not only be important, but also an effective move for Nostr growth and adpotion to promote 'privacy by default NIP-09 respecting' relays as a main reason to use paid relays.