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 Kid, 24 years old is WAY too young to know if your ex was the Love of Your Life! 

It sucks that you’re still not over her but the BEST thing for you to do is stop contacting her, so that you can emotionally heal and move on.

She’s still in your brain and heart now.

Channel your angst into getting fit and creating things.

Heartbreaks usually fuel a lot of excellent music albums. 

And actually *process* the breakup and try to figure out why it happened and what your role was in it. 

And try to learn from the demise of that relationship.

It could have been that she just wasn’t a good longterm fit for you. 

Don’t rush into dating someone else until you’re FULLY healed. You will KNOW when you are ready!

And if she was truly the Love of Your Life, your path will cross again and you two will end up together. 

If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen!

But date around to figure out what you like, don’t like, look for a girl who is compatible with you in interests, values, goals/dreams, SUBSTANCE stuff and not just a hot girl or cuz you’re lonely or want to hookup. 

Take care and hope you’re feeling better!

(Also, your brain is probably not fully developed at 24 so you may want to consider not doing so much weed cuz it does affect it! If you’re doing it everyday, it’s a crutch for your body.)