Yeah, it’s a great point because there are so many different kinds of wallets. Not to mention the complexity of lightning channels and stuff that even myself is still learning how to do properly.
Pura vida wallet pretty good if you want to try. It’s built on goloy so similar to some others. I think it’s useful to have a wallet that has both options of on chain and lightning for conversation. It’s a question of finding the correct starting point. Full psychopathy takes time! Saying that, I took one person from “how does it work” to “I’m ordering a cold card” in a couple months! Not the norm though