I have my own website for these reasons (OP) in part.  if you set the robots.txt file up correctly  then the aibots will not scrape you.  most of what I see in logs is fake bots or people trying to brute force, I report every one.  there are plugins to help protect graphics and text.  it's doable with know how and a little help.

ultimately I want to create quality art and I want quality readers.  I'm not looking to please a massive number of people.  quality, yes!  quantity as a measure, no!

imo, massive sites like meta makes funnel art and writing into generic please the masses genres, dilute art  and are just sales driven. 

my 2 cents (maybe 2.5 🤣)