im just using my own personal relay that doesn't allow writing to, besides a few npubs for my wife and i to use. nothing overly special there. im sure a few people have added my personal relay, but they can't write to it. anyways, to get it to work, people just need to use a client that supports the gossip model and my note will be pulled in for them to view. 

 Thanks for the explanation, sounds like an awesome thing to learn in a workshop, step guide or tutorial. I would pay serious sats for it as a not technical person because I realised lately how important a good setup is. 

 @bert 👀