Let's be honest here.
If he doesn't want to pay for a reasonable date, doesn't want to buy you flowers, etc., then it's safe to assume:
1) he's running through a lot of women,
2) he's broke or stingy, or
3) you're out of his league, so you don't agree on what is "reasonable".
From my experience disagreeing on what is reasonable does not equate to being out of their league. Plenty of people have different standards for a prospective partner vs themselves.
There's a span, but if he's balking at paying for coffee or some nice pasta, he's probably in too deep.
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I was meeting someone at a coffee shop once. He was running late and I was thirsty, so I got a drink. He called me out for buying my own and said he thought that signaled I wasn’t that interested.
I keep thinking about stuff like this and wanting to go thank my current partner.
Well, that's more asynchronous.
Coffee shop dude? Or that I want to thank my current partner for being so lovely just the way he is?
The coffee shop thing. You weren't ordering together. He wasn't even there.
It was one a few weird things that signaled it was just not meant to be. Do find it weird that someone would comment and find it offensive that I ordered a drink when he was over 20 minutes late.
He should have been happy you hadn't already left. 🤣
He complains that you're not showing enough interest? And this after he was late? You might get the idea that HE lacked interest! To be honest, I find it hard to deal with tardiness 🤭 I probably would have left with my takeaway coffee by now
💯 Mallory's way nicer than me.
Well that was our second and last date and it was several years ago. 🤷🏼♀️ I’m dating someone very lovely right now who brings me coffee. 🥰
Dates are expensive these days
So are groceries. He needs to keep up with inflation or he won't be able to feed her.
90% of men can't keep up with inflation. So I guess westerners will just stop reproducing. Which is exactly what's happening.
Women can say that it's mens' problem, but it affects us all.
If he can't keep up with inflation, how does he plan on feeding a family?
You think dinner out is expensive?
Try to feed teenagers. 🤷♀️
So I guess most of us just die alone.
Not most, since most men are already married, but a lot. Up to a third.
Unless the economics changes rapidly, that is, perhaps through harder money.
I keep up with inflation, but can only afford one wife.
One is more than enough.
Ambiguous
My husband tells me this. 🤣
Says polygamists are insane because one wife is more than enough.
Besides, you have to do some mate-guarding and If you had more than one, then they might wander off in different directions and that would be tricky.
Well Lady H doesn’t need to worry because I pay for all our meals out
I'm never going on date. 😂
I think personal standards are key. I don't need anyone to pay anything for me. In the event that I decide to have a date, I will listen very carefully.
Rather stack sats than date 🤷
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