Damus relay? nostr.build? Never heard of 'em. Must be those dirty city-dweller back-alley relays. I stick to relays that directly represent the people I follow like relay.uxto.one, pyramid.fiatjaf.com, chorus.mikedilger.com, and hodlbod.nostr1.com, you know, well-respected high-quality decent reliable trad relays, straight from the source, pure, clean, artesian springs, not some middle-man, used up, hand me down events transmitted through piles of snakes.
Are you even decentralized bro?
How should new (non-tech Davy) users navigate their relay set up? Trying to work on onboarding FAQs and this is a topic I see questions about and had myself too.
If they don't know any better, they should just choose some relays. Maybe 2 inboxes and 3 outboxes. I would like some trustable sources of knowledge that monitor relay capability and suggest only relays that suit for those purposes. Right now someone can easily choose an inbox relay that is paid (and that will not suit) or an outbox relay that specializes (and that will not suit either). I've been hoping someone writes a relay tester and maintains such a list for the community -- in fact we should have competing lists. But it hasn't happened yet. I manually went through many relays and picked 20 to suggest to new gossip users which I verified accept new users notes and serve them back out, which I recently shared here: nostr:nevent1qqstunh264x95nqvmdjt8y8h49e07fq7f4h2k4g7q3eh04htgg2yk9qpypmhxue69uhkx6r0wf6hxtndd94k2erfd3nk2u3wvdhk6w35xs6z7qgwwaehxw309ahx7uewd3hkctcpr4mhxue69uhkummnw3ez6vpj9eukz6mfdphkumn99e3k7mf0v8xg9j
I'm sorry but is this relay grass-fed, organic? I'm actually allergic and can only use tor.