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 because:

a) we have developed thick skins after months of being on alpha grade clients that barely work

b) because it's more fun to quote and ridicule assholes and the best defense is offense 
 seriously, point b. i am starting to realise just how effective it is when i expose assholes to the public view, they don't want to continue, surprise surprise

first thing an abuser does is isolate you 
 I have no problem with that. People seem to be suggesting that I am defending or supporting any of it. It's fucking dishonest as shit and I won't have it. I have never engaged in any such activity, so to attempt to lump me in the same group is going to get my back up. 

What I suspect is that some people are conflating people being shitty with targeted repeated harassment of individuals. Since it never shows up in my feeds, I wanted to see some it. And then to suggest that 'feels' like harassment in itself is fucking ridiculous.

This really is beside the main point. The blanket approach to try and remedy this is lazy.