Oddbean

So much of good communication with anyone—in this case, women—is asking good questions, listening to answers/responses, and then asking good follow up questions. By good I mean genuine, thoughtful, and fitting. They don't need to be complex or clever. Nor should you ask as if conducting an interview. Rather, in a way that displays that you genuinely care to know the person and what they think. What qualifies as a *good* question will also vary a bit based on context and how established the relationship is. If meeting someone for the first time think about where you are—a party, a bar, a bowling alley, a library, a bitcoin meetup, a concert—and think of questions based on that context. Also, smiling, saying hello, giving your name, and asking a basic conversation starter question goes a long way.. Ill note that women have a strong radar for unspoken communication too. How you compose yourself—do you shrug, shuffle your feet, and look down a lot? Do you make eye contact? Do you smile? Do you respect personal space? etc. This all communicates a lot to a woman, often within mere seconds of a first encounter. Lastly, a woman worth having will not be won by how rich you are.

I’m 44. So take what I have to say with that knowledge. Many years ago I could have married wealthy but chose not to because our values didn’t align. Women don’t fall in love with money. Maybe some do. IDK 🤷🏻‍♀️ I didn’t. Never could. Make a list of your personal values & seek those who share those values. And whatever you, don’t test them or lie to them. I’ve done it. Others have done it to me. It never turns out good. 😊 Gave this advice to a man years ago who thanked me later: go to a public location & say hi to everyone. Don’t focus on just the women you’re physically attracted to. Doing this will get you comfortable talking to anyone. Then when the time comes to speak with one you “desire” for whatever reason it won’t feel as awkward. LMK if you have further questions.