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 I couldn't imagine judging someone by the amount of people that they decided to mute. I don't know what happened to them? 
 Nothing, apparently, is the prevailing wisdom.

Also note that reports and mutes are usually public and if someone is bothering you, and you report or mute them, that can set them off on a whole campaign, including using automation, so some women prefer to just become very still or abandon their npub.

There's a reason why I mostly stick to reading from private/paid relays. I just broadcast to the other ones; I don't look at them. Thar be dragons. 
 the fine distinctions between private and broadcast are largely misunderstood by most devs in this space

it will get better over time, and i'm certainly not going to lower my cudgel 
 i was today years old when i realized that i can choose what i read and where i write....ahhhh ty ty