Good!

We’ve run a paid relay for 18 months. We’ve disseminated zero spam.

If everyone paid for relays like https://relay.nostr.com.au then none of us would experience spam.

Paid relays are the solution - not the problem.

Free relays are the problem. Running a free relay with next to no spam mitigation should be considered an attack an Nostr.

Doing so as a client dev who refuses to provide any tools to mitigate spam - you you’re just a bad actor at that point. 

 Yes, if everyone paid for relays like yours, then spam would certainly not be a problem.

But that's not going to happen.  That's an ideal world thing, and we live in the real world. 

 I agree with you. That's why I think it's important to create and develop the tools to increase the communication between relay operators and end users.