Oddbean

I know what you mean, it’s hard. I once spoke to this lovely lady who was in her 60s and she told me that whoever I end up dating I could potentially end up spending the next 75 years with them, so it’s okay to be a little picky 🥹🫂 if they don’t add anything good to your life (and vice versa) then it might not be worth it. Also, could you have thousands of dinners with that person/ kiss them a thousand times and potentially not enjoy it? I also heard from my friend Joe who’s in his 50s and been with his girlfriend for I think over 14 years that compromise is key. It all depends on what you’re willing to compromise on 🙏🏽 🫂🫂🫂 this is a fair thing to be picky about I reckon

Aww, what a great story. And perspective. I love hearing about that kind of thing from older people, and thinking about how they were once our age, having the same experiences and feelings. Yes, I can see how compromise is a part of things. It’s also hard to know where to compromise and where to keep looking. I suppose physical attraction and communication—kissing is sorta like physical, emotional communication in my book—are in the category of things you don’t want to overlook if it’s not happening for you. It’s not about being picky, it’s about being honest with yourself and your kissing partner. 😘

Me too 🥹🫂 love discussing things like this with them. Nah I get this, I think if it would cause you to resent them over time, then it’s probably not something you could compromise on I reckon. For sure 🫂 for me it’s kindness and communication cos 75 years is rather a long time 🫂