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 I don't think there is much mystery to it. Usually it is obvious what attracts me 
 The question is more:
Was it something concrete, on a list, that you seek out? Like "tall, blonde, skinny, speaks French, likes Mediterranen food, has office job"
Or is it something more ephemeral that sends shivers down your spine? 

And -- here's the thing -- can a woman have that shivery-something and beat out someone who is theoretically more your "official type"? 
 Can be all of that and more. But it is obvious what i like. There can be magic of course and that comes always from attitude