I'm using a small personal relay, wss://chorus.mikedilger.com:444/

- how did you discover them?  I created it.  I wrote the software. 
- are they with people you know IRL?  Yes I know myself well enough at least.
- what do you like about using a smaller relay?  Total control, helps me debug my client
- what if anything would you change or improve?  I'm not sure right now it's pretty stable, but as soon as I think of it I will improve it.