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Laeserin | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +2 
 Most players aren't having that many kids, anymore, because of contraception (and, to a lesser-extent) abortion.

And they tend to be reproducing with women who aren't good mothers. Doubt those children will be very successful.
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nami | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +1 
 Interesting. I have almost the opposite position. It is these kids that are looking for success because they miss other things. And they do tend to have more kids
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Laeserin | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +1 
 They don't have more kids, anymore. Married women have the highest fertility.

And the statistics for fatherless children are dismal, across the board. It's not a death-sentence, but they all suffer from it.
As far as I know (and I've looked!), there are no statistics where fatherless children outperform those raised in the house with their dad. Unless you consider "being more likely to commit suicide or be murdered" as outperforming.

Example:
https://ifstudies.org/blog/life-without-father-less-college-less-work-and-more-prison-for-young-men-growing-up-without-their-biological-father
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nami | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +1 
 Well i didn't say fatherless. That's a total different thing. I said parents who don't really care.
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Laeserin | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +1 
 Those two things tend to correlate. Parents try very hard to stay together, when they care.
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nami | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +1 
 Exactly. Players don't try to stay together because of the children. That's exactly my point. They make a kid, when the situation becomes demanding the divorce. Then a kid with another partner, both women and men. Then divorce again. Having kids is not a measure for quality. Not at all
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Laeserin | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +1 
 It actually is, as sustainable marriages are the most fertile.

There are different methods for achieving "kids" or even "more kids", but the most reliable path is to just find one woman and treat her well-enough to stick around. That's why men have evolved to treat women well.
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nami | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +1 
 Sustainable happy marriages have become quite uncommon. All of that is a wishful thinking. 
But sustainable happy marriages can be a measure of quality. I bet you are doing quite well on that.
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Laeserin | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 Just have to look at life success statistics for fatherless children versus those raised in the house with their father. They fill the prisons, the brothels, the psychiatric clinics and detox centers.

You can see the damage right in their DNA:
"Kids who were raised without a dad have much shorter telomeres, the protective caps at the ends of chromosomes that are believed to affect health and longevity"

https://www.christianpost.com/news/fatherlessness-shows-up-in-childrens-dna-affects-lifespan-study.html