Okay mr miljan, so heres what i have going on.

I use alby via safari to 07 my entry into primal.
I dont use a signer on my damus, and i'm on test flight always.
Not sure if that matters.

I never ever, touch the settings on either.  I have like the same 8 relays I always use, and that im happy with.

Over the last few days too, i've noticed my primal web has been laggy.  Sometimes ill try to post a note and it will say it failed but it goes through anyway.  Sometimes I will send a DM, and the input box never clears itself, but if i click something else then click back in the dm, it sent.

I'm losing my follows, which is nuts. And if i'm not mistaken, i never had this problem until i used the data backup thing that pablo suggested... metadata.nostr.com

I'm 99% sure that PRIOR to that, I didnt have these two issues.
When pablo posted like hey your meta data can get wiped, I chose to back it up on that.

So now what seems to happen is my damus and my primal are overwriting themselves ( and to both you and will please dont get upset if im saying it wrong ) its just what it feels like. So for example earlier today I loaded my damus, and ALL my relays were deleted. then I added the 4 suggested relays and boom, content started coming through, but it was basically dead doing nothing.

But then ill go on my primal, and i see like follow buttons for people i know i damn sure followed. and I dont know exactly what is happening.  Its not ONLY the clients fighting over the relay list, its also my follows. Do you have a workflow you can give me so I can try to get more data on how this is happening?  I literally just had to re follow you, and i've followed you almost as long as will. I have no clue wtf is going on here.  should i close one, and update the other. should i close both? what do i do to help?