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 Genuinely curious 

How do you deal with betrayal? 
 Betray them back  
 If it is truly betrayal. Then I end the relationship. 
 Genuinely I just terminate any relationship and consider them to not exist. I don't get revenge, but there is no path to forgiveness for some things. 
 But it entirely depends on what you are considering betrayal.

If someone knows you love banana splits, and then goes with friends for banana splits and doesn't invite you - that's not betrayal or not worthy of such response.

If you tell someone a secret in confidence and they tell someone very close to them and it gets out - that's not enough for me to cut them off. I know human nature too well to hold someone to such a standard. 
     "If you reveal your secrets to the wind,
    you should not blame the wind for
    revealing them to the trees."

Kahlil Gibran, The Wanderer  
 listen to this on repeat ofc https://youtu.be/IHgFJEJgUrg?si=DcBHGYRySHdPYvZ0 
 Interesting coping mechanism 
 Haven't trusted a fart since. I'll probably never male a full recovery. 
 Damn that sucks 
 Forgive them and move on from relationship. Holding grudge is low frequency energy which eventually  becomes toxic then lead to illness. 
 Usually I pick a much stronger deck for the next game. Commander politics gets brutal 
 INTJ door slam. 

If I can’t trust you, I don’t want to be near you. And I put up with a lot before I get to this point, so no regrets on my end if you force it that far.  https://media0.giphy.com/media/3ohhwxNhS5xxe1hi0M/200w.gif?cid=586b07f06mii3du7nlgrmq04j5q2gys550tpmp26fywxx4b5&ep=v1_gifs_search&rid=200w.gif&ct=g 
 That’s some queen shit