Oddbean new post about login | logout Most online relationships are superficial. People confuse followers for friends. We don’t have as many friends as we think. Very easy to test by leaving your favorite social network. Followers don’t mean anything. The only thing that matters are the people you get to know irl.
Fully agree. My experience is that building and maintaining friendships takes time and energy (in a positive way) so I rather spend it on a few which I have a deep understanding with instead of quantitize it
Online relationship mostly work if you wanna go deeper into a rabbit hole .. real life relationships (mostly) pull you back to the surface .. That said ... going deep into a narrative has its own charm .. just keep your totem handy to do a reality check :-)
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Shit, this means I have no friends.
I'd argue most IRL relationships are as well. It's always eye opening when you make different life choices than the groups you hung with and you suddenly aren't "in the club" anymore. I remember when I made the decision to get healthier and quit drinking and most of my college friends stopped calling. Sobering -- pun intended.