Sure the onboarding sucks.
The initial setup sucks.
Discovery sucks.
Getting zaps to work sucks.
Nostr sucks in a lot of ways.

Yet there are a lot of people who are Nostr-only. There are a lot of people who are dedicated to building it out. It's growing at a pace that's mind-boggling.

Maybe people should think about why that is when they're trying to participate in the network. In my experience, you get out of it as much as you put in. 

 I love nostr and want to make it better for more people

That someone else should put in the work is not a winning mentality