Yeah, fuckin nostr clients and DMs are such a dumpster fire... Found it ND replied using coracle
absolutely horrible UX. I have replied, not sure if u see them. I am using 0xChat, which uses gift wraps.
If u have signal we can use that if you are okay.
next.nostrudel.ninja actually works properly btw
it only uses the *cough*bullshit*cough* insecure nip-04 encryption scheme anyway, i don't use signal and i have a device here with simplex on it but that device is no longer my daily driver anyway and i don't want to use a mobile device to communicate about programming, it's like being disabled