Ok. I see the disconnect here. I'm currently running my nodes over Tor. It is shit. I'm considering going over clearnet for the nodes but not sure if I'm ready to share my home IP address. I believe all the suggestions were about how I could contact/admin my own node. I'm looking for options on how to change my node itself to no longer use Tor. 
It seems like clearnet is maybe the only option, or I could maybe build a ssh-style on a VPS IP address or whatnot. 

 Just use a Cloudflare tunnel if you don't want your IP public