also need to say again: if they are nice to you, they do not want you, they are just nice.  

 Just like the server at the restaurant 

 or the bartender lol  

 Yeah; the bartender chick totally has a husband 

 unfortunately, the other head does most of the thinking... 

 That’s just science and can’t be changed 

 yeah...
it's an internal struggle.
change comes from within...