Oddbean

To understand that some of our responses, and what triggers us in another , sometimes has nothing to do with the other, but are inherited from past wounding. Instead of feeling attacked, work on understanding from where it is coming from, and only answer when that understanding is present.

lovely response :3 i agree~! self-knowledge is a crucial aspect of emotional maturity. i would also add that having empathy and understanding this about others is essential as well. this way, we can recognize that not every response is about us. this is extremely important when dealing with children who can't regulate their emotions yet.

When I was taking care of my little princess I did huge healing in order not to pass to her my emotional turmoil. Was a very good exercise that allowed me to stop before reacting. It was not easy and some days I did fail. But in the end, the balance was positive. She helped so much to grow. Children are great mirrors.

yesyesyes~! i'm on a similar journey at the moment. even with all the self-knowledge and books and patience in the universe, it's still a difficult task and we all fall short many days. but they will too, and that's okay. and we can show them that. <33333 ty so much for sharing this. :3

You know when they paint everything and cut clothes...lol ? And yiu are tired or upset? I very patiently sit with her and said, you can paint, but not on the walls and furniture. You have here paper, pens you can use anytime. If you need anything ask. As for the clothes I said, her , if you cut your beautiful dress, then you cannot use it again Or the socks to make dresses to Barbie lol 😂😂😂 I said, you ask me and I give the ones that are small, ok ? And she agreed. Sometimes we forget that if we react in a certain way, we can prevent an artist to become one ! Gotta be very careful. And if we explain everything, with simplicity, they understand.