Don’t tell yourself you have to do something, or that you should be doing something.

Because then when you aren’t you will feel negative and give up. 

Tell yourself instead…

My preference is _________ and when I do ________ I feel better.

“My preference is to sleep 8 hours and when I do I feel better, but if I don’t I’ll be fine too.”

“My preference is to eat less and when I do I feel better, but my freind is in town and they want to go out.”

This helps you reframe away from black and white thinking and shift more into preference and acceptance.

Humans are imperfectly made, give yourself wiggle room to do the right thing most of the time but never all of the time.