where does it go? i've experienced this
nostr:nevent1qvzqqqqqqypzpra3gz6w3h00jl8yhqsay3e83gdyx5ekyc3lvsppfp9nwtu5sqqvqqsrj235mk3tjxpra3rlnnx3q0wn8u57ygkzk3wdu0c83ac347qeansahe9xp 

 It goes nowhere, transaction fails 

 so it's still in my wallet? 

 Yes, once it times out which can be weeks if it caused FC on some channel or hanged on a dead node